Tracy the Relationship Expert....Not

I was on Facebook last night and happened to notice a post that it was time to change the clocks forward an hour!  For crying out loud!  I hate the time change because it screws up the kids for weeks!

Ok, I have a couple of topics for tonight.  First of all, it's already after 11pm and I'm wide awake.  Yeah, it's going to be a long day tomorrow.  John really has a hard time, especially in the morning because when I'm waking him up in the morning at 7:30am it's really going to feel like 6:30am.  Poor little fella!

So I have a new favorite TV show.  Cougar Town.  Tina said she read an article or something and even though the name of the show isn't the best, the show is GREAT!  I guess you would think by the title that it wa an older woman trying to hook up with young guys.  Not the case.  Have you seen it?  I DVR it and I watch every episode like 4 or 5 times.  I'm watching one right now, as a matter of fact.  I LOVE IT!!!!

Wow, I can't remember what my other topic of discussion was going to be, haha.  What a moron.

I think I was going to bitch about the long winter and how the kids have been sick for like 5 months.  Spring is just days away and I'm so glad because once we get to warmer weather, the kids stay pretty healthy....knock on wood.  Let's look at my winter....John has been sick for most of the winter.  He is snotty and has been coughing for months. 

Sami had an ear infection a month ago and three weeks after being off the antibiotic, she is sick again.  At the doctors office they said she had a bad infection in her left ear.  Today, she was crying and crying about her right ear.  I looked at it with Scott's mega strong flashlight and it's all purple and bulging.  Gross.

All she did this afternoon is cry and cry.  She had a fever and was feeling so bad.  I didn't even know what to do for her because I was out of Tylenol or Ibuprofen.  So, I had some A/B Otic drops that numb the eardrum for kids when they have an ear infection.  Finally, she fell asleep.  Poor baby.  After she slept she did feel better and I did get her some tylenol.

I remember when I was a kid I had an ear ache, the only one I can really remember in my life, and it was Christmas Day and we were at my Grandma and Grandpa Condon's house.  I remember laying in her bed crying my eyes out because my ear hurt so much.  It was so miserable!  My kids have had terrible ear infections over the years, all of them.  And poor Sami, she has been so miserable this week.  That's why I'm so glad that spring is near and it starts getting warmer.

Did anyone see this weeks Cougar Town?  It was a story about friendship with the opposite sex.  Most people think that men and women can't be friends.  I am not one to think that.  I have guy friends that I am not interested in romantically or sexually.  What's your opinion, can men and women be friends without the sexual stuff?  You know my opinion now.

Anyhow, on the show Jules is saying that if you're lucky you will find a man that you can have both with.  Friendship and the romance.  I have that.  Scott is the best thing that ever happened to me, and he really is my best friend.  Oh, he pisses me off sometimes and I know that I piss him off sometimes but even after ten years together we still like each other and love to spend time with each other.

There are alot of couples out there who love their spouse without really liking them.  I know couples like this.  What happens when your kids grow up and move out and you are left with your husband or wife?  Is this when it falls apart because you don't like each other? 

True Story:  We have a customer at work that we are doing a move for that is 73 years old.  It is a confidential move because her husband doesn't know that she is leaving him.  I mean, she is 73 friggin years old and she is just now deciding it's time to move on from her marriage of 40 or 50 years?  This is just so strange to me.  Here is what I think.  Don't spend your life being miserable.  If the person you are with doesn't make you happy, get out of the relationship.  Life is so short.  I've already been talking about this....Jason graduating this year and how fast the time has flown by.  It feels like he was a Freshman about 3 months ago and now he's about to graduate.

Don't be left with a miserable marriage after giving so much of your life to someone.  Make sure that you really do like the person you marry.  I've discovered that you can love someone and not necessarily like that person.  If you have family, you can relate to what I'm saying....right?  Look, I'm no expert in marriage but I know that I could never see myself being married to Paul when I was old.  After the first couple of years of being married to him, and I was so unhappy, I couldn't see myself being in a long marriage with him. 

There were some pretty serious reasons for leaving Paul and I'm so thankful that I did.  It gave me the chance to meet Scott, and he really is my best friend and I love him like crazy!

"When a marriage really works, the tiny bumps in the road don't matter.  You don't have to be scared because there's never any real jeopardy."  - Ellie on Cougar Town

Enough of the sappy talk.  Just rambling at this point.  Relationships are so difficult and it's easy to dish out advice to someone when you aren't emotionally attached to that other person.  Only you know what's in your heart, how much you can take, and if you love the other person enough to make it through the good times and the bad times.