That's How I Roll

I was talking to my friend Kathie the other day about something that is probably so common but we are so busy that we don't realize it's happening to us. You see, like Scott, her husband works alot of hours. This can be so hard on a relationship. It happens to so many couples, reality sneaks up on you and you have a family to support and bills to pay. So, you work and work and work....and sometimes it's at the expense of your relationship with your spouse.

While talking to Kathie about how busy she and Steve are I discovered that Scott and I have been suffering from a big disconnect too. Ok, we aren't having "problems" and our marriage isn't "in trouble". I've just been really grouchy lately, pointed out to me by the kids and Scott, and I started to ask myself why.

I came up with alot of reasons for my grouchiness but it started my brain on something else. Scott is my ally! We always stick together and we team up to take care of business around here. Well, I've been pretty grouchity with him too. Hmmmm, but why?

It might be that we don't have even one day off of work together. There aren't any days during the week where we can just hang out together and relax. We've always done everything together. Shopping, errands, etc. Well, that's not happening. We haven't really spent any quality time together in over a month since I started working. I don't regret working, I love my job. Seriously, I hate being away from the kids, but I love my job!

It doesn't help that he gets up early for work so by 9pm he's out cold. Well at 9:00 I'm still fighting with kids to get into bed, doing homework, doing laundry, doing dishes, or a hundred other things that need to be taken care of around here.

So, maybe it's all Scott's fault, lol. No not really. In a relationship, there are always two sides to every situation. So, back to Kathie. She was telling me that a friend of hers recently divorced her husband because he would get pissed over her spending too much time with their kids. What? Are you kidding me? I say good riddance! Paul was that way, he'd get so pissed off at me for spending too much time taking care of Jason. Kiss my ass Paul!

Well, we decided that as adults we need to understand that our spouse is busy and that we are busy. Ok, thats going on like crazy in my house. We are both busy. That's just the way it is, we are both adults and I need to stop being so grouchy with Scott. I'm brewing and I'm bitter and I feel like we're growing apart, today. Next week I'll feel different. That's how I roll!